Parenting is the greatest and most gifted responsibility given to us. It may be different for all of us, as we are all raised in different backgrounds and in different circumstances and situations. Every parent wants the best for their child, and parenting can be a task or challenge as children are more influenced by western culture and its trends. No human can pour out of an empty cup; we can only offer what we have, hence positive parenting. Before knowing how to raise positive children, we have to be mentally prepared and fill ourselves with positive thoughts by seeing the positive side of life. There are some tips on positive parenting.
1. Love and accept children the way they are.
Having a loving and warm relationship with children will help them feel safe and secure. By doing so, they will develop a sense of security for bonding and attachment between child and parent. When they feel secure, children will be happy, confident, and able to handle emotions.
2. Allow them to make mistakes.
Making mistakes is part of learning; helping children learn and grow through the failures they have experienced is often the key to success. By accepting failures, brain activity increases, so new information is better absorbed. Making mistakes also gives us the experience to make ourselves stronger than before. It also helps in developing into a holistic individual.
3. Teach them to love and believe in themselves.
Give children positive attention. Children can handle daily life hassles by themselves. Do your favorite activity as a hobby and upskill, like music, sports, arts, dance, etc.
4. Effective communication
Speaking kind, loving, and encouraging words. i.e., I believe in you, you are intelligent, you are gifted, do not give up, trying is more important than winning, you are special to me, and I’m always here for you. Do not be afraid. We can deal with this together. A vocabulary filled with positive words for kids enables them to be determined. It will change how kids perceive themselves in a positive way.
5. Budding emotional intelligence
These positive words make kids more confident; they can bounce back from setbacks and develop resilience and determination to overcome challenges. No human is perfect, and that is absolutely fine; your negative feelings will pass. Be honest. Helping children understand relationships. Influencing others effectively helps them manage social awareness, a sense of feeling, self-management emotions, and impulses in check, adapt to change, and lastly, live and show up with integrity.
6. Socially intelligent.
To be able to build a socially intelligent person by inculcating effective listening, empathy, and communication. As psychologist Edward Thorndike defined social intelligence, it is the ability to understand and manage others and act wisely in social situations.
7. Raise a generational kid who knows how to deal with anxiety.
A fearless child who can make the right decision wisely helps children identify what causes the anxiety. The root cause of most anxiety and panic is fear of uncertain situations or bad experiences. Often times, children are punished for bad behaviors because they don’t know how to regulate their emotions. Instead of teaching children the correct way in a positive manner, i.e., by practicing mindfulness, children learn that when parents love them for good behavior, they chut down or suppress part of themselves when they are unaccepted.
8. Positive self-talk.
When parents teach kids to talk positively, they develop a positive sense of self and an optimistic personality. They are high in self-belief, and even in the most challenging or difficult situations, they come up with solutions. It helps them have high self-esteem.
9. Building trust between parent and child
Everyday interaction with a child will help you and your child have an amazing relationship with everyone. Asking them about their daily work on building rapport and the tonality of spoken words Facial expression, eye contact, and physical touch. Like a warm hug. Active listening and making them feel heard when they are sharing. Validating their feelings is a great way to promote positive parenting and keep up with them.
10. Never fight or argue in front of children.
What children hear during their growing years creates a mental schema that is instilled in them and affects the child’s personality, which makes it difficult to have good relationships with themselves as well as others.
Conclusion.
Parenting is the most privileged and hassle-free activity when done with ease. Every individual is gifted and unique in their own way. Parenting can result in being stress-free when one is happy with themselves first.
By Gloria D’Souza | Mindbasket India